How to Acknowledge Your Emotions And Deal With Them?
Emotions play a massive role in our life, doesn’t it? But it can be a disaster if you don’t acknowledge them and deal with them accordingly But how do you do it? And WHY?
We often suppress the negative thoughts in our mind because they usually consider ‘Bad Emotions’. We neglect the hurtful feelings by indulging ourselves in an immense amount of work, or in a world of social media if nothing then taking the wrong road and doing the things that are not permissible for us. And why do we do it? Because it gives us a sense of control tricking our mind into thinking that those emotions don’t exist. But trust me no amount of tricking can make you forget those feelings unless you accept them yourself.
no matter how it hurts, face your feelings and fears. So you can move on and finally feel happy and content with your emotions. Moving on from any situation contains you facing your sadness, accepting and embracing it. It doesn’t mean you are weak. Even the strongest people break down. And if you think that these emotions are just here because you are doing this wrong or that wrong and now Allah is punishing you that’s not entirely right. Allah does not burden a soul more than it can bear. Our beloved prophet Mohammad [ SAW] used to make dua to Allah to save him from depression and anxiety. What makes you think that you are immune to it?. Yes, Allah made you suffer, but it doesn’t mean that He despises you. Always keep in mind that Allah made you suffer because He loves you. He wants to find refuge in his direction, he tests you with something you love or something bad for your spirit.
Now what to do in these types of situations? and how do we accept them? In these types of situations when you are too high on your emotions, take a moment to collect yourself and do some quick dhikr so your heart can ease. Think about what you did and what the other person did. how it happened and why it was important to be done. Think about the pros and not the cons. Maybe whatever happened was bound to happen, maybe the changes were in front of you all along it was you who was not seeing it. right?
THEN HOW TO ACCEPT THEM?
You can accept your feelings by accepting and recognizing them and not dwelling on them. Meaning? This means that when you feel sad or upset don’t ignore it by using social media or getting salvation in a bottle of whiskey, instead write what you are feeling. Sit alone for a few minutes take a moment and think about what went wrong and how it happened, and acknowledge why are you feeling this. and who is the reason for it? by simply knowing what and why it went all wrong you will feel much better because reason always solves 20% of our problem. Now don’t sit and think why me always just think how and then prepare for next time. Pray some salah and talk to Allah. Read Quran verses according to your situation.
Usually, the situation does not change suddenly they do change over time we just usually ignore them because we are so high on good emotions.
WHY ACKNOWLEDGING EMOTIONS IS HEALTHY?
By acknowledging your emotions you basically care for your mental health by not storing them in your brain forever. One thing that humans don’t know is that everything we feel sees or gains knowledge of gets stored in the back of our head so when we suppress the things that hurt us, it always comes back to us no matter what. No matter how many times you indulge yourself in social media, your work, and any amount of distraction you WILL get those horrible glimpses of hurtfulness here and there. And to save yourself from those glimpses you have to first recognize the emotions you are feeling.
What does Islam say about this matter?
Islam encourages self-care and dealing with emotions, It does not mean you are weak or you don’t deserve good things, it’s just that time will pass you don’t have to dwell on it. This is the thing about this world, one day everything is going according to you, and another it’s the opposite don’t sit back there and think oh I could have done that or Maybe I shouldn’t have done this. Whatever happened, happened, think about what you are going to do now and what could have done in the past okay?
I hope I was able to help you today, until next time.
Fi’AmanAllah. M.Ali.
